Who Works with a Professional Life Coach?

January 25, 2021January 17, 2021 ~ viewslifecoaching ~ Leave a comment

Who Works with a Professional Life Coach?

I want to talk to you today about life coaching and the numerous benefits you can reap when you sign up with a life coach. You may be familiar with the term because you’ve probably heard your favorite celebrities talking about the practice! I’m here to tell you more about life coaching and how it’s helped a wide range of people, from world leaders to celebrities alike.

What is Life Coaching?

Before we talk about who can work with a professional life coach, let’s discuss what a life coach is. A professional life coach is a licensed expert who will essentially help you take charge of your life.

Not to say that you don’t have control over your own life. The art of life coaching allows you to view your internal motivations, desires, and goals. Your life coach asks you specific questions to get critical insights into what you want to get out of life. They then sit down with you and draft a customized plan to help you achieve the goals you want in a timeframe that works for you.

It’s super simple: you get to discuss whatever you’re struggling with, and an expert draws up a plan to help you do better in life.

If you’d like more information about life coaching or are ready to kickstart your journey, sign up for your first free discovery session today! I’ll guide you through the process, ask you some questions, and I guarantee you’ll love it.

Famous People and what they have to say about Life Coaching

When you think of celebrities, you might picture a famous, self-assured person who doesn’t let anything get in their path to success. This isn’t true because celebrities are just like ordinary people because they fear anxiety and sometimes lack motivation. They also need to reach out to someone who can help them achieve their goals.

Many prominent celebrities have worked with life coaches and remain grateful to them till this very day. Let’s look at some of the famous names who attribute their success to life coaches.

#1: Oprah Winfrey

Oprah has made a name for herself with her award-winning talk show, her books, and her philosophy of life. She’s a well-known name internationally, and there’s barely anyone who doesn’t know her or her work.

Oprah gives credit for some of her success to her renowned life coach, Martha Beck. She’s been very vocal about how life coaching has helped her stay afloat through all these years. Not only that, but she advises her fans and followers to start working with experienced life coaches. Oprah views life coaching as one of the best ways to succeed in life.

Here’s what Martha Beck has to say about positive thinking, “Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.”

#2: Leonard DiCaprio

Leo DiCaprio has been in the industry for a long time. He’s given heart-warming performances that have made millions of people all over the world fall in love with him. Despite his hard work and constant efforts, it took a long time for him to win an award that he wanted.

He attributes some of his success and mental peace to his life coach, Tony Robbins. Robbins helped him hone his skills and focus on his strengths to lead the life that he wanted to. By getting Leo to focus solely on the positive aspects of his personality. Robbins ensured that he would get to the top.

Leo equates his life coach to a friend who knows him. He said, “I get a friend to travel with me – I need somebody to bring me back to who I am. It’s hard to be alone.”

Robbins has been the person who’s known Leo through all of his ups and downs and proves that life coaching is a powerful practice that works.

#3: Serena Williams

Leonardo DiCaprio isn’t the only celebrity that Tony Robbins has helped. He’s been pivotal in giving a much-needed boost to Serena Williams’ life and goals. Robbins has helped Williams enhance her performance on the court by urging her to focus on her strengths instead of her weaknesses.

Williams often talks about how life coaching helped her come out of a very dark place. There was a time when she got severely injured and couldn’t train properly. Robbins coached her through this dismal period in her life and made her well enough to win a Grand Slam later on.

With Robbins’ teachings, Serena Williams learned how to convert her failures to successes.

#4: Britney Spears

If you know anything about Britney Spears, you’ll know that she’s had to overcome an extraordinary number of struggles and setbacks. She lost her way for a while when she was forced to raise her children by herself and was always hounded by the press and paparazzi. She lost her self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth.

However, she was able to bounce back from all of that with her life coach’s help, whose name she keeps hidden. This anonymous life coach helped her regain her sense of self, and she was able to get back on stage and rebuild her professional and public image.

Her life coach helped restore the thing she needed the most: self-belief. Spears seems to have overcome her struggles quite successfully with life coaching.

The Bottomline

As you’ve read, famous people need help too. Life coaching is simply a way to identify your unique struggle and then plan to overcome it. There’s no shame in reaching out to a licensed expert who is willing to help. In fact, not reaching out can often do more damage, and I urge you to keep that in mind.

Sign up for your first free discovery session with me, and we’ll start working towards a healthier, more wholesome, and brighter future for you today!

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7 Signs That Intimate Relationships Aren’t Your Cup Of Tea

June 10, 2019August 12, 2019 ~ viewslifecoaching ~ Leave a comment

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Many people say they want it, but do they really?

I’m talking about…the big “M” word...Marriage

Between all of the princess movies and fairy tales heard countless times growing up, to the sappy romcoms that fill many people’s watch lists on streaming television, many women (and some men) have it imprinted on their psyche from a young age that marriage is the answer. To be fair, marriage is the ultimate intimate relationship. However, it’s not the end all to be all.

Many of my current clients grew up secretly (and some not so secretly) wanting that wonderful prince to sweep them off of their feet. That’s the main reason they decide to hire a relationship coach. With that being said there are many situations I’ve come across with clients that have allowed me to pinpoint the 7 things that I hear most often that are a signal they probably aren’t ready for marriage and their communication in relationships needs serious work.

1. Communication in relationships is a challenge

Does shutting down happen often when frustrated?
Are silence, avoidance and the infamous “cold shoulder” go-to behaviors for handling conflict?
Is spazzing out a part of how anger is handled?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, then chances are a person may not be ready for marriage. The importance of communication in relationships cannot be underestimated. If a client finds themselves struggling with proper and effective communication in relationships, then they need to take the steps to work on it.

No one else can make them a better communicator and it won’t just “happen”. The decision to hire a relationship coach will help a client become aware of any relationship sabotaging patterns that they have.

During their relationship coaching sessions, a client will also work with the coach to come up with effective strategies to address those patterns (Hint: have no fear of being the uncoachable client). Remember, communication is key in any relationship but especially in the context of an intimate relationship where one person is sharing their space, body, food, finances, and ultimately future with another person.

Some books of interest include:

2. Compromise in intimate relationships seems like defeat

First of all, if a client looks at intimate relationships like a chess match, then they are bound to lose. Compromise in relationships is an important part of any adult relationship period, not just in marriage.

It always baffles me how clients are so open to healthy compromise in work, family, and friendships, but as soon as we start discussing compromise in the context of intimate relationships, they shut down!

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I usually have to talk clients off the ledge a bit with this one. I explain that they are an adult with their own thoughts, feelings, and outlooks. In their intimate relationship, they are trying to come to a harmonious conclusion with another adult who has their own thoughts, feelings, and outlooks. Inevitably they’re not going to always agree.

Having hesitation and doubts when it comes to compromise usually comes from past hurts. Often those hurts need to be addressed during coaching sessions so a client can let all of that go. Marriage can truly be an uphill battle for those who struggle or refuse to compromise.

If this resonates on any level, journal it. Next, meditate on what the perfect relationship looks like. Let those feelings out about why compromising in relationships is hard (or scary, etc.). What does the interaction look like in a perfect relationship?

3. Have a belief that the person who makes the most money makes the rules

We have all heard the saying “he (she) who makes the gold, makes the rules”.

This does apply to many areas of life but one area that it should not apply to is in a marriage. Healthy intimate relationships need to be built on mutual love, respect, and trust. In marriages where there is only one partner working or one partner is clearly the breadwinner, this should not be used as a reason for treating the other partner as a lesser contributor to the relationship. Communication in relationships about money, support, and contribution are necessary for success. I definitely recommend that you hire a relationship coach if you have issues around money, intimacy, and communication in relationships.

4. Long term commitment is a new frontier

Not to say that every person has had lots of long-term relationships before marriage, but if a client is over 30 and has not been in a long-term committed intimate relationship, we definitely dig deeper. Learning the importance and the how of communication in relationships will keep you from repeatedly stumbling and failing.

There may be deep-rooted resistance, fear or anxiety around intimate relationships that have not been addressed. Deciding to hire a relationship coach will give a person the time and safe space to explore this further.

5. Lingering intimacy issues from past intimate relationships

(This is similar to 4. above but not exactly.)

We all have issues. That’s just part of what makes us human. However, for the purposes of this blog post, I’m talking about those deep fear of intimacy issues that stem from past negative experiences in intimate relationships. These issues prevent a person from fully connecting (mentally, physically, or emotionally) with another. If there is resonance with this subject, then a person’s issues could run the gambit of manageable enough for a professional coach to assist to severe enough for the assistance of a therapist or counselor to be required.

♦For more insights about dating, also read: Are You A Hot Mess At Dating?!

6. Severe indecision about having children

Now, this is not an absolute dealbreaker, but if a person has serious indecision or opposition with their partner about kids…then marriage may not be for them. The reason is simple. Kids take up a huge chunk of time, money, and emotion. If a person is strictly on the opposing side from their partner on the subject, then having (or not having) kids can cause a serious rift in the relationship. When I coach on this topic, I make sure that the client reaches clarity around their decision.

7. The desire for marriage is wrapped up in what others are doing or expect

Marriage is a serious commitment. So if a person is on edge to get married because of other people’s expectation or experience, that’s a definite red flag. Similar to understanding thoughts and feelings around children, I work with clients so they can gain clarity around why they want to get married. If it comes out during a session that it’s because of what someone else wants or what they see other people doing, we stop and do some deep reflection. Questions I ask include:

What’s the end goal?
What’s driving the desire to be married?
How will that commitment look once it’s entered into?

Here are some books that I think can help give any singleton great perspective:

Conclusion:

Marriage is the ultimate commitment but communication in relationships of every kind is important. You need to understand that any serious intimate relationship takes the right:

mindset
attitude
willingness to do the hard work

on the part of all participants. SO…be honest with yourself. Determine if now is the right time for you to be in an intimate relationship. If the answer is no, fix your s&*t and take the steps you need to take to get in the right place to be in such a relationship. Remember, you don’t have to do this work alone! Hire a relationship coach and the two of you can effectively partner to create some very dynamic changes to assist in your communication in relationships.

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