You wake up, you go to work, you come home, then you repeat.
Question is, does this cycle make you happy?
If you are spending hours every day doing something that is only mildly satisfying or barely tolerable, then you need to make a change. Follow the steps below and you’ll be on the way to finding your bliss asap!
1. Define what bliss means to you
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, Bliss is defined as complete happiness; paradise; heaven. That’s a pretty heady definition for a word! Who wouldn’t want to experience that in their everyday lives?! This is something that we should all be aiming for. Not to sound morbid, but think of it this way, none of us are getting out of this thing called life alive, so we should live it to the fullest. Make everyday count. Be actively, happily and fully engaged in every part of your life.
Take a moment to define what finding your bliss means to you. What does complete happiness in every area of your life actually mean? If you find yourself struggling to define what bliss looks like to you, working with a professional life coach will help you alot. Some books that I’ve found useful on this topic include:
- The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal
- The Geography of Bliss: One Grump’s Search for the Happiest Places in the World
- Bliss More: How to Succeed in Meditation Without Really Trying
- Crystal Bliss: Attract Love. Feed Your Spirit. Manifest Your Dreams
- A Tribe Called Bliss: Break Through Superficial Friendships, Create Real Connections, Reach Your Highest Potential
2. Evaluate the level of bliss in every area of your life
Take a look. I mean seriously take a good hard look at where you’re at in life and assess the level of bliss every component of your life is currently scoring. To make this exercise easy, let’s use a scale from 1 to 10. 1 being you have absolutely no bliss/satisfaction/happiness in a certain area and 10 being you have total bliss/satisfaction/happiness in that area. Think of areas such as:
- Work
- Health and fitness
- Family
- Familial relationships
- Romantic relationships
- Friendships
- Hobbies and passions
Once you’ve completed the scoring for those areas (and any others you might have come up with), look at any areas that scored between an 8 to 10. What are those areas? Come up with three words for each of those high scoring areas to describe why they cause you bliss or happiness in your life. Finding your bliss means identifying the factors that make a particular area in your life so blissful.
Finding your bliss means identifying the factors that make a particular area in your life so blissful. Share on XNow, we are going to look at the not so high scoring areas. Look at any areas scoring between a 1 to 4. What are those areas? Come up with three words for each of those low scoring areas that describe why they cause you a lack of bliss. Finding your bliss is also about identifying the areas in your life that are draining you of joy.
For this exercise, I’ve steered clear of the areas that are scoring in the middle. Since that’s a very grey area, it may be harder to come up with words in this quick exercise. When working with a professional life coach, you would be working with some more advanced tools that would allow you to better articulate this area.
Finding your bliss is also about identifying the areas in your life that are draining you of joy. Share on X3. Take Action!
Now you have identified the areas and you have identified the reasons for the areas of your life that allow you to exist in bliss and cause you lack of joy. So what are you going to do next? What are you learning from this exercise?
Write that down.
Next, write down at least one action you can take immediately to improve the level of bliss in a certain area of your life. Finding your bliss is also about maintaining that blissful state. Get happy, stay happy, and address the areas of your life that are currently causing you to experience emotions other than happiness. Take your time with this. In areas where you’re already experiencing a high level of bliss or happiness, identifying next steps will be simple.
Get happy, stay happy, and address the areas of your life that are currently causing you to experience emotions other than happiness. Share on XHowever, in areas of your life where you’re experiencing a lack of joy, you might not know how you are going to improve it. Remember, Rome was not built in a day! Think of small steps. Preferably small steps that revolve around improving yourself in some way.
For example, say in the area of familial relationships, you scored it at a 4. You have a particularly negative or non-existent relationship with a particular family member because of some past event. Start with working to let go of your anger, pain, or negativity when you think back on that event and that relative. You can only change yourself, you cannot change other people. What would the perfect conversation with that relative look like? What would you need to have that conversation? What feelings come up for you when you think about having that conversation with that relative? You get the picture.
Now the ball is in your court. Start finding your bliss now! Comment, like, share, and subscribe. If you want to dig deeper around this topic, schedule a coaching session with me today!
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